Divorce Checklist For Men

Divorce Checklist For Men

Getting married is one of your life’s most important and biggest decisions. It’s difficult to find the perfect one, so when you think you’ve finally found your soul mate, you get married and naturally assume this marriage will last forever. But what if it doesn’t?

Some people get lucky – they find their soul mate and have a happily ever after. Others? Well, they don’t get to be lucky in the marriage department. So the unlucky pair usually get divorced, which is quite challenging physically and emotionally.

According to American Psychological Association, at present, over 40 to 50 percent of couples end up getting a divorce in the United States, and what’s even higher is the divorce rate for subsequent marriages.

In all honesty, getting married is great for couples’ health. It enhances your mental and physical well-being, and a happy couple ends up building a happy family. That is why getting a divorce is often devastating – a traumatic affair indeed. (When I mean that getting a divorce can be tough, I am referring to both partners who suffer in marriage.)

Although women suffer greatly while going through a divorce, men also do.

Men have it just as hard as women; however, men don’t always show their vulnerability as much as women do because they’ve been taught to be strong and never appear weak.

Based on these stereotypical labels that men have received over the years, it makes it much harder for them to disclose their thoughts and feelings to anyone.

Ultimate Divorce Checklist for Men

Avoid Doing Nothing

We all go through problems where we just can’t handle all the stress piled up from a complicated situation so we just want to completely bury our head in the ground and hope that the problem goes away.

If anything, doing nothing will make matters worse for you. You need to keep your mind occupied with doing things that will uplift your mood for the future.

Many people isolate themselves during a divorce. It’s always good to socialize and have some entertainment. Making sure you’re participating in life and surrounding yourself with positive people will help you stay positive during a difficult time.

Immerse in the Art of Yoga

You will need something to channel your pent-up emotions, and doing yoga is the perfect remedy for that.

Yoga and meditation are common spiritual practices that have been scientifically proven to be relaxing and offer great benefits to the body, mind, and soul. Doing yoga can relieve you from stress, keep your anxiety under control, and control your blood pressure whilst enhancing your physical and emotional health.

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help

As I mentioned before, men find it difficult to ask for a helping hand. Being all macho, they often don’t want to show their weak side.

Divorced men that I knew thought they could handle the divorce on their own but soon found out they didn’t have a clue. They ended up drowning their sorrows in booze and drugs and eventually lost their way when it came to positively work through the divorce process.

Not reaching out for help will lead you to a one-way ticket to a destructive divorce and a miserable future.

It’s okay to ask for help from your friends and family. They can be a great pillar of support, and you won’t have to feel alienated by your problems.

If you don’t want to involve your friends and family (for whatever the reason may be), you can always consult a professional therapist. Their company and supportive advice can significantly help you in such a situation, especially when making logical decisions and considering your divorce plans.

Become Knowledgeable About the Divorce Process

The more educated you are in the ways of how to get a divorce, the easier it is to advocate for yourself and your rights during divorce.

Divorce is hard to deal with emotionally and financially. The more knowledge you have, the less financial damage that will be done.

There are so many financial aspects that need to be considered when getting a divorce. Dividing the assets and property; if you have children, you would need to discuss child support and gaining custody, etc. It can be a hassle if done in a rush without thought. Take your time to look into information on how the whole process works.

Reach out to Others Who’ve Been Through Divorce

Meet up with divorced people so you can get some ideas on how to manage your situation as effectively as possible. This can help you cope with your situation and give you an idea of your future life.

However, ensure you meet divorced people who have successfully gotten past their divorce situations. You don’t want to meet someone who is still hung up on their ex and wasting their life away or someone who suffered a huge amount of financial loss during their own divorce periods. Yet, you can learn better from their experiences.

Avoid Taking the Issue to Court

It’s best to resolve all divorce issues between you and your spouse via mediation.

The reason why you should avoid court is that mostly, the moment you enter a courtroom, you have lost control of the outcome of your divorce.

If the judge doesn’t feel your case is strong enough or simply favors the other party, they have the authority to go against you whether or not you sound logical in your arguments.

Respect Your Ex

If you plan to negotiate your way through this divorce, then you need to be careful with how you act toward her.

Be nice to your ex-spouse, whether they deserve it or not. Do not get provoked when they try to taunt you. Try not to let your anger channel into your speech and make it an amicable process, especially if you have kids. This way, the situation will hurt less, and you can get a favorable response during the negotiations.

Move Out to a Place Where Your Kids Can Hang Out

Naturally, it’s uncomfortable to live with your soon-to-be ex-wife under the same roof, so you will end up moving out at some point.

If you want your kids to come to stay with you, get a decent place to stay when they come to visit you. When moving out of a marital home, take everything that you own but isn’t considered marital property.

Stay Involved in Your Kids’ Lives

You will need to spend as much time as you can with your children because you don’t know how things are going to end once the divorce process is complete. Try your best to communicate with your kids regularly. Talk to them about how their day went and immerse yourself in their lives. Be sure to be present for their school meetups or any other occasions. Just find an excuse to stay around them. This can strengthen your bond regardless of how much less time you get to spend together.

Source = Monica Albert